So, Do You Ever Think About How You’re Going to meet your purpose mate/ helpmate/ Soulmate? Or if you already met them and just didn’t know it was them.
I’m a hopeless romantic and I have all these different scenarios played out in my head of how we’re going to meet from a Beyoncé & Jay-Z concert to us both traveling abroad with a group of friends.
Whatever it be – I just don’t see it right now. I don’t know if it’s because where I live or I just don’t go out enough. But honestly ya’ll during the winter I’m like a bear I hibernate. I become a homebody, and try to get everything I can accomplish on my vision board that’s a goal.
And my dating life sucks – sooo it’s whatever. And I’m not in a rush to get married, and go be with anyone. I just want security and the feeling of being safe, and wanted. You know?
I think a lot of the times we’re with someone just for instant gratification, and not for long haul, and through it all (the ups + downs).
I recently had a guy tell me he couldn’t see us together long term because I didn’t play video games, dungeon + dragons and didn’t like anime as much as he did.
(gentle reminder: comparing what you want to what others have is very damaging)
So, he intentionally did things to push me away, and I didn’t see it or recognize it at first – but I did eventually. Also, he didn’t want anything serious after about 4 months of dating. I was highly taken aback. So, I removed myself from the situation cause I know my self- worth (and I refuse to settle for anything less than I know I deserve)
This is important to remember: “you can give love, if you never been loved. Especially, if you never had an example set before you.”
I know it’s not me (ladies + gents quit blaming yourself for fail relationships, sometimes things just don’t workout because you both are in different places in your life, matured differently both emotionally and mentally, and some people are dealing with turmoil from the way they’ve been raised. )
it’s crazy how some people allow the smallest things to deter you from what you both feel could be potentially real.
But, I guess he could be the best thing I never had. Right? Well, we’ll see